Today, I am an armchair anthropologist. I have come to understand this as I watch Caiden, my eight-year-old son, run in circles around our couch. Nobody had to teach him this action, in true Nike form, he is just doing it. I’m not sure what is going on in his mind. What could he possibly be thinking about? Is he subconsciously connecting to another world? Is this my son or this his avatar? What is it about running circles around the couch that caused him to abandon superior entertainment forms like annoying his siblings with blow-out party favors? I am studying him. Today, I am an armchair anthropologist.
I have only seen this action one other time in my life and it was while I led a gaggle of second grade boys on an “educational” field trip to the Anchorage Zoo. During this trip, it was my duty to assist these boys, including my oldest son, in discovering facts about various zoo beasts. Nobody told me where the facts had to come from so there was some question as to the validity of some of the animal facts that the boys gathered. By far, our most memorable experience was with the wolverine. This vicious beast was hissing and seething with white foam dripping from his gums and fangs while proudly showing off his homo-sapien-like tongue-rolling-gene. (In a head to head comparison, our genetic superiority over the wolverine only revealed itself in that we all had lobed ears and opposable thumbs.) All the while, Mr. Wolverine was running in continuous circles around his cage, ferociously batting his razor-sharp claws at us. That’s when I told the boys the first and most important fact of the animal kingdom, “Boys, wolverines will RIP YOUR FACE OFF!” At the exact moment I was expounding this irrefutable truth to the boys, an innocent mother-daughter pair walked by us, hearing the frightening fact about wolverines. The mother quickly embraced her concerned daughter and calmly said, “Oh honey, wolverines won’t rip your face off.” I thought to myself, “Oh silly mother, yes they will! Pound for pound wolverines are the most vicious beasts on earth!”
So right now, I’m watching my son run in circles around the couch just like that caged wolverine – minus the foam, hissing and seething, of course. I honestly understand the poor kid…it’s day two of Spring Break and we just got two more feet of fresh powder in our yard on top of all the other snowpack. We are truly snowed in! We can’t get out until we’re dug out and I’ve literally been advised to duct tape orange snow machine flags on our children before sending them outside to play. So with all things considered, my son running around the couch is understandable when you consider the cabin fever that he is experiencing. Like I said, I am an anthropologist today.
You know, outreach and anthropology are closely connected. In order to be effective in outreach we must, from our careful observation of others, take cues on how best to demonstrate the heart of Christ to them. For example, a few weeks ago, I met Olga, Sergei and his three boys while sledding at Service High School (see the February blog post). Shortly thereafter, I spent two hours listening to Sergei’s story over lunch. Since then, we’ve met again, talked multiple times and he and his entire family have come to a weekend service at ChangePoint. My family is currently invited to Sergei’s place to have a yummy Russian feast prepared by his babushka (grandma)! I wish I could say that I’m the master at observing and acting accordingly, but so often I speak and act without listening and observing first. By God’s grace I’m still learning how to demonstrate Christ’s heart to others, including those closest to me… which brings me back to my son who has just about worn a wolverine path around the couch. If my anthropological observations are correct, I believe he needs me to go and wrestle him. I think he needs to gain a hard-fought victory over dad…I just hope he doesn’t go rabid-wolverine on me and rip my face off!
How about you? Who are you observing? How can you best demonstrate the heart of Christ to that person? What’s your next move? Please do share your comments and thoughts.
Be sure to get involved in ChangePoint’s outreach ministries! To learn about opportunities contact Jim Capaldo at jimc@changepointalaska.com or (907)646-4880.
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